A Guiding Light, the Parental Force

At this point in my life I find it hard to relate to people who have children. This is a given, I am in high school and have never “made” anything that is living besides a potted plant I grew from an avocado pit.

I do not know what it is like to be a parent, but luckily, I do know what it is like to be the product of two supportive, and, from my understanding, authoritative ones.

Parenting is said to be the hardest job anyone can do and how someone goes about parenting is a choice that can change throughout a parent’s life.

The debate of whether more “laid back” or “chill” parents create more trust between parent and child has always fascinated me. I’ve heard from many people that a child is a clear reflection of their parents and the lessons their parents have taught them.

A reflection of what they have allowed, the opportunities they have set up, and how they want their child to reach their idea of highest potential.

Whether or not your parent fits into the more well known styles including, but not limited to, authoritarian, indulgent, authoritative, or neglectful parenting, how they go about the whole parenting process greatly influences the character of who they are raising.

The people that raise you and guide you through the troughs of life are responsible for your safety and building trust from a young age.

“I think that because I can be honest with [my p and they don’t get mad when I tell them things it just makes me more responsible,”  junior Alia Amr said. “I am able to do more things.”

Having a relationship with your parents where honesty is the basis of all communication creates a better understanding between parent and child.

“My parents are really good — they just say ‘whatever you do, be smart,’” junior Chris Coon said.

You may have heard your parents say “make good decisions” with a tone of irony, but knowing what exactly constitutes a good decision and assessing the risk to reward ratio of daily choices are all things that our parents program into us from a young age.

How parents choose to raise kids from what I have observed, is greatly influenced by how they were brought up.

“My mom, she’s from Japan and she’s from a culture where mental illness and stuff isn’t really talked about. Junior Mai Schrock-Manabe said. “I have some troubles with mental illness and stuff like that and it was hard to convince her that medication would help,”

Trying to change the way your parents think can be an ongoing challenge because when growing up, kids are constantly faced with feeling less powerful than those with more experience and seniority than you. An example of this is that I have seen new things in my life that my parents never experienced as a an adolescent. This includes understanding the new age of technology,

A common misconception I’ve seen in parenting is assumptions revolving around technology. After young people experience a loss, an enlightenment, or even a really good sandwich, I have seen a trend of them wanting to share this to the world through online uploads.

I know for me, my parents have often thought that there is a lot of oversharing online. Our roles are reversed when I teach them new ways to learn in the modern age of broadcasting.

Along with the new independence that comes with age, parenting styles change and evolve over time. Those who brought us into the world have seen how scary things can really be and just want us to be successful in an ever changing part of society.


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